i am not the best debater around.

the bouncer is really pretty eloquent and strong in his points. he has data and history to back him. me? i know what feels right, morally and ethically. i know i believe that regardless of anything that makes you different, you’re human and we all deserve the same. the same what? the same everything. treatment, opportunities, flavors of sour patch kids.

last week he had a big facebook debate about gay marriage.  the next day i had one about boots and skinny jeans. even though i studied political science and philosophy – it’s been a while and debate is not my strong suit.

bill maher commented last week on real time in his new rules section:

Because for hundreds of years, white penises were America. White penises found America. They made the rules and they called the shots, in the workplace, in the home and at the ballot box. But now the unthinkable is happening. White penises are becoming the minority. 2010 was the first year in which more minority babies were born than white babies. This is what conservatives are really upset about. That the president is black, and the Secretary of State is a woman, and every shortstop is Latino, and every daytime talk show host is a lesbian. And suddenly this country is way off track and needs some serious restoring. If penises could cry, and I believe they can, then white penises are crying all over America. And that’s where this crew comes in. The lovely MILFs of the new rank. And their little secret is that their popularity comes exclusively from white men. Look at the polling. Minorities hate them. Women hate them. Only white men like them. I’m no psychiatrist but I do own a couch. And my theory is that these women represent something those men miss dearly: the traditional idiot housewife.

Source: http://newsbusters.org/blogs/noel-sheppard/2010/10/16/bill-maher-uses-brett-favres-penis-sexting-bash-sarah-palin-and-white#ixzz12vWNufKz

it’s sparked an interesting commentary.  the bouncer’s brother discussed it on facebook and inspired a 20 something comment long debate (that, to be fair, was mostly agreement).  one female we know said that men have turned into pussies and women are corporate bitches pretending they have penises (i felt compelled to respond to that, igniting the comment thread).  another female, who i don’t know, doesn’t hold the same views but seems to at least admire palin/o’donnell/the like for having ambition and drive enough to get into their respective positions and climb the ladder.

to be honest, i think i prefer the option that their popularity comes from white men and their desire to oppress.  at least that isn’t anything new.  it’s less frightening than the idea that someone actually supports such drivel.

later on today my friend, the actress, posted this nyt op-ed piece (which i can’t find a good summation quote from): making ignorance chic.

where have we been and where are we going? aaron sorkin is one of my favorite television writers – and i haven’t seen the west wing, i know, it’s a crime against humanity. he ends one season of every show he does with an episode titled, “what kind of day has it been?” in sports night, towards the end of the series, the television channel the show centers around is bought out by a company called “quo vadimus” – a latin phrase that translates as “where are we going?” i think both are valuable questions to ask – we all need to pause and take stock.

i believe we’re going somewhere that honestly frightens me. you want to be an elected politician? know your supreme court cases and your constitution. that would strike me as fairly basic. yes – i respect that fact that women are able to rise to positions of political power. i’m grateful. but what about when they’re there for the wrong reasons? what do you do when what they do and say, and the example they set forth, is destructive to all of the progress that’s been made, enabling their rise in the first place?

my philosophy professor would step in now and call this circular. and he would be correct – it is circular. and how do you escape it?

as i said in the beginning, i am not the best debater. my arguments are typically emotional. i am not the most well-spoken or persuasive person around. but to break the circle we must let wiser voices rise and be heard. something must gain a stronger influence over thought and action than the one that will only reverse progress. so here’s to me, and smart, socially correct other women and men like me, drowning out destructive, reactionary, frightening concepts. speak up. you deserve to.